I am always very open to feedback. I intentionally surround myself with people who tell me the things I need to hear, even if it’s not always the things I want to hear. I cannot learn or grow if I am not open to feedback and constructive criticism. I’m happy that most of the people who I’ve talked to really are enjoying the book, but I’m even more thankful for the people who have stepped up and given me insightful and honest feedback about how the book has impacted them. These are the three things I wasn’t expecting to hear about the book:
“It helped me see the ways I could be a better parent.”
This is a business fable. It says it right on the cover. It is a book designed to help entrepreneurs and business owners understand the power behind mentorship, leadership, and next level success. So when a friend of mine told me that It helped her see the way she could be a better parent, it caught me off guard. She explained that she could relate a lot to Paul, a bold and dynamic character who has a lot of material things but is lacking when it comes to building organic relationships, especially with his son. She said she was humbled as she read the book, and realized that she was showing her love for her children by buying them things and taking them places, but couldn’t remember the last time she sat down with them to have a conversation or ask them questions about their lives.
“I didn’t want to see myself and Paul,” my friend told me, “but the more I read, the more I realized that I was doing a lot of the same things that he does. Childhood trauma made it hard for me to open up, and it was my kids who are suffering.”
We had a long, deep, thoughtful conversation, and at the end of it, she walked away with a few key action steps to help heal her relationship with her children. I was not expecting that, but I am so thankful that Swim! impacted her this way.
“It helped me feel confident about my career path.”
One of the most impactful comments I received about Swim! was from a childhood friend of mine. He wrote to me to tell me that reading Swim! helped him feel more confident about his career path. All of his brothers were lawyers, his dad was a lawyer, his mom was a school teacher, and he even married a lawyer. But he was passionate about music and dedicated to pursuing music full-time.
“Sometimes, I feel guilty for choosing this career. I felt like it was not the prestigious career that my family had hoped for me. But as I read this book, I really related to Scotty. He didn’t have a college degree, he didn’t own a Fortune 500, but he did what he loved with purpose. And that’s what I do. I’ve let go of a lot of the guilt that comes from not having the career everyone else expected me to have, and become more confident in the musician that I am.”
This was a big deal for me. When I wrote the book, I was hoping that everybody could find a character that they relate to. I was so happy to hear that my friend could relate to Scotty, the owner of the AC company, and realize that the key to a happy life is pursuing what sets your heart on fire. Success does not have to mean a penthouse office or a fancy car or an impressive title. Success is doing what you love, challenging yourself daily, and consistently striving to be a better version of yourself.
“Swim! made me realize I’m not the shark I thought I was”
A stranger approached me recently after reading the book, and at first, it felt like he was not a fan of the book. His attitude and body language made it seem like there was something about the book that rubbed him the wrong way. As we discussed the book, it became clear that the book revealed to him some things about himself that he wasn’t entirely proud of.
“I’ve always been proud of the fact that I’ve reached success at such a young age. I’ve watched your videos about having a shark mindset, and I was confident that I was a shark in my industry. But after reading this, I realized I might not be the shark I thought I was.”
We had an hour-long insightful conversation, and at the end, we both walked away with a gentle reminder that there is always more to learn. We can always be better. We can always do better. But we can’t do better if we don’t know better, and I think this book helped him identify some of the things he could work on to truly adopt the shark mindset.
I am so thankful that Swim! is helping small business owners, entrepreneurs, parents, college students, musicians, and so many others learn the importance of mentorship and mindset. I am always open to feedback and input, and would love to hear how Swim has impacted you, your family, and your business!
My challenge for you:
1: Order Swim if you haven’t already
2: Reach out to the author of the last book you read and let them know how their work has impacted you.